What Happens When We Die – Before and Three Weeks After

Why are there so many stories of dying people seeing their loved ones around them when no one else can? If death is imminent such as in a fatal accident, does the spirit leave the body before the trauma occurs? Do good and evil people end up with the same experiences of death? Is death the same thing as a near-death experience? Do we live more than once? Where do we go after death, and can we visit our loved ones on earth again? Do we get to decide what happens to us after we die?

Each of us experience a death-like state every time we fall asleep. Yet we welcome sleep and are refreshed by it and when we awaken we are renewed. There are two basic parts to the body – the physical body and the spirit. In sleep our spirit lifts out of our body, and we are not aware of our body functions, but we are busy with dreams and other things. But at that time we are still attached to our physical body by what looks like a silver cord, so we eventually come back to it and wake up. In death that cord is broken, and we do not come back to the body. Can that cord be broken before death? Yes, it is one of the beautiful things that Divine Love does – if the body is about to be made inhabitable through a quick death such as an explosion, fire, crushed or many other accidents, the spirit is lifted out of the body beforehand and the cord is cut by a heavenly hand. The same thing happens for animals. You’ve seen on TV a predator chase down its prey, and the deer continue to struggle and cry while in the predator’s jaws or even while being eaten. But the animal is not alive - this is just the nerves and body functions continuing on for a brief time, the spirit is already out and feeling relief from any of the physical pain and emotional fear that had built up to that moment. Even in near-death experiences, many people will have memories of hovering over their bodies but not physically feeling what was going on in the dying body, until going back into it. Then upon going back into the body is when they experience pain.

But not all deaths come quickly, what then? When a lingering of life occurs before a person dies, the person will often hear or see their loved ones in the room with them, which is to help them overcome their own fear of death. This is to ease the fear of death and to help the person understand that their spirit will continue on. This can go on for days, weeks or even much longer. However, this experience can be clouded if the person is on heavy medications, since these can make it more difficult to recognize the reality of the help offered by the other side. On drugs it can also be much harder to discern these visits from the overlapping and recalling of life memories. But the opportunity to find peace with the upcoming change and encouragement to go easily into the arms of waiting loved ones is there, and is very real, and should not be scoffed at if what is seen by the person is shared with others.

No matter how the moment of death comes, whether fast or slow, we are in charge of some big choices at the moment of death. This applies no matter what religion or culture a person is from. Because free will does not end at death, sometimes people make an incorrect choice even after letting go of the body. Ever wonder about the last part of the Hail Mary prayer? “Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee; blessed are thou among women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death. Amen.” At the hour of our death is when we are most at risk for being attacked by unHoly Angels. This is why it is so necessary that people are surrounded by love, understanding and support at their time of death. This is a crucial time. Many have entered the ghost life simply because they are simply afraid to go to God, thinking they would not be forgiven for things they have done.

The death experience is much different than a near-death experience. How so? Near-death experiences are opportunities that we can learn things from and then we come back. Often there are similarities between full death and NDEs; such as meeting with a Divine being, having a life review, and a feeling of full acceptance and love. Also, one of the most notable outcomes of a near-death experience is the noticeable changes in a person once they return, and the lack of the fear of death. However, the experience of death with the cord being cut is different from a near-death experience, and we will look at some of them now.

When death is imminent a Holy Angel appears before us, along with several loved ones who have already transitioned. This occurs to help us know that the Angel we are seeing is not a hallucination, and that we really do exist beyond our physical bodies. All Holy Angels are beautiful beings of great love and light, and what is often seen as wings is actually shimmering rays of light. They have specific duties, and the one that comes to us at this time of transition is often called an Angel of death, but is more aptly called a “homing” Angel, because he is there to take us home to God, the source of Divine Love. Homing Angels are very gentle and loving and maternal, and desire us not to be afraid of letting go of our bodies. We are given three choices at that time (1). to go to God right then, (2). or to wait until after the funeral ceremony, (3). or not go to God, which leaves us in a ghost state. But all we have to do is touch the hand of the Angel or call out to God, and our journey continues. Why are we given a choice? Because even after death we still are free will agents and will not be forced to do anything we don’t want to do.

Touching the hand of the Angel is a choice as well, for it shows our free will desire to go to God, and to choose love over fear. If we skip (3).we end up in a ghost state, a spirit separated from the body but not yet choosing to go to Love. Many have entered the ghost life simply because they are afraid to go to God, wrongly thinking they would not be forgiven for things they have done. There have been many versions of faulty teachings about God – but he is not like a prison warden, or a strict overbearing disciplinarian who would send anyone to a fiery hell of torment. He is the core of unconditional Divine Love, forgiveness and mercy. And torture and fear do not coexist with Love, it is the exact opposite. In fact, in Biblical days there was a pagan ritual of sacrificing children to false gods by burning them to death in fire, and God shows his repugnance for that by saying: “The people of Judah have done evil in my eyes…they have built the high places of Topheth…to burn their sons and daughters in the fire – something I did not command, nor did it come up into my heart.” (Jeremiah 7:30, 31) It is not in the heart of a loving God to do such a thing.

Unfortunately, sometimes a person may feel they can’t go to God until they finish something here - even though they will have so much more ability, clarity, and freedom to help change things when they do go to God first. Technically, ghosts are the life-force of people who have not yet gone to God. Spirits are the life-force of people who have gone to God and now have access to come and go as they please between this world and the next. Manipulated ghosts are the life-force of people who have not yet gone to God so are in ghost form, and have come under attack and control of fallen unHoly Angels or demons. For them, the world is a very dark place. But even then, ghosts and manipulated ghosts will be periodically visited by a homing Angel and offered the opportunity to go to Divine Love. Sometimes God will even send a human gifted with the ability to release ghosts as well, and this person’s will to help automatically calls the homing Angel for another opportunity for the one who is lost (see the article Ghosts, Spirits and Manipulated Ghosts - The Differences on TiffanySnow.com).

The reason we are given a choice about going to Divine love right then or waiting until after the funeral is because there is a 2-3 week debriefing time after we die. During this time we have a life review; it is a review of the facets of love learned during this life, which is the reason we are here. In a life review, what we experience is the direct cause and effect of what we have done to others. Where you have showed unkindness, you will feel how it felt to the people you were unkind to, and from them how your interaction rippled out to others – all of it you will feel coming back to you. Where you have showed love, you will feel how it felt to the people you were loving to, and how it rippled and magnified and expanded out to others – and all of that love you will feel overflowing coming back to you! And, where you did not interact when you had a choice to, you will also see, and the missed opportunities that could have been.

Truly, God does not punish us at all, for we come to God’s essence by grace – the breaking of the generational bondage we had through Adam’s sin was erased by Christ who was the karmic redemption for all of mankind, beyond religion or culture. So in the life review we only experience the ripple effects of what we ourselves have done for good or for bad, and yet we are shown that we are still fully loved, forgiven and accepted by God as his children, if only we desire it. Do you see that even those who would have a life review such as Hitler, with extreme ripple effects of pain, are not punished by God, but by themselves? Even then, God brings us to the next step, a washing and cleansing of all the events of our last life, so that we may not be overly sad, burdened or distracted by the things behind us and can continue to move further into the love ahead of us.

The washing and cleansing of our past burdens and deeds is accomplished when our spirit passes through a great circle of energy, which was not available until the redemption of mankind by Christ. This energy takes off all the darkness and impurities, and makes us clean and Holy again, and by this act we not only release all the baggage of “should have and shouldn’t haves” from our last life, but we also come into the full remembrance of who we really are, which includes the information we have learned and the facets of love that we have polished from every life we have lived. Why Christ? The ripple effect of the choices of our original parents were passed onto us like a bad gene. It is as if the misuse of free will put them in prison, so we as their kids were born in the cell with them. It became a no-win situation for us, a generational bondage that no one in our family line could heal, because they were all inside the bars too. So one of those created outside of the human family had to come to our rescue, we needed a savior with a key. The life of the one we know as Jesus Christ came and unlocked the prison. Before him, no one could even go to the core essence of Father. That meant no matter how long we lived, nor how many times, the burden of darkness on our shoulders was too great. We kept trying to polish the basic facets of love over and over and still could not come and stay before the core Presence of Light and Love. Jesus became the karmic redemption for all of humanity (see the article Why Jesus Life is Important Beyond Religion on TiffanySnow.com), before him there was no cleansing ring of redemption.

What happens now? After walking through this redemption ring, we truly remember who we are and know who each one around us is, and who God is too. This cleanness and unity is a feeling of a raindrop falling into the sea – the raindrop does not lose his own identity, but expands out to become fully aware and connected to the entire ocean – the true Oneness. Visually, I was shown a great valley that narrowed to a wide canyon on one side, and Angels and human spirits helping thousands of the newly dead continue moving down the path into the canyon. The people seemed a bit dazed and didn’t really know what to do, and though you could see they had clothes on, each one looked see-through (like clouds) and was a different hue of brightness - some ashen colored and some more shadowy, all different. The upright circle of redemption looks like a device a thousand feet tall, strongly pulsating beautiful waves of iridescent energy within it. The canyon fits snugly around the bottom half of the ring. There are bright human spirits all around the circle of redemption, all singing of God’s love and the grace of redemption, and it encourages the people to not be fearful, but to pass through. People always have the gift of free will, so even up to this point, a person does not have to pass through – but their darkness will remain upon them and affects many future choices. But when a person passes through, their joy is immediate!

The relief and release of emotions is spontaneous, and might be likened to witnessing the joy of one’s own birth into heaven. The full awareness of each life you have held is remembered with elation, and the accomplishments and acceptance of yourself and one another is fully felt and known. The love that God has for you, and you for God, is fully revealed and treasured. All fear is gone. You now remember you know how to move easily on your own through light, thought and sound, and the original language of “Angel-speak” which uses color, sound, numbers, space and dimension to perfectly convey and receive communication. Also your uniqueness is more noticeable now than ever – for the amount of polishing on each facet of love has indented you to experiences and situations, other Angelic and human beings, and locations throughout thousands of years. Our expansion into Love never ends; God continues to magnify himself and invites us to be on the journey with him. With this in mind, there are going to be those who come through the circle of redemption who realize they are very bright indeed, for they have come to a point of having polished all the basic facets of love. This means they do not have to return to an earthly life again, unless they chose to help others as an instrument of God. When we are on earth, we are here to polish the basic facets of love, and to make our choice known in the issue of love versus fear. When we come through the cleansing, we see clearly what we have yet to do.

So at this point, we have new decisions to make about future choices. Each of us has a guardian Angel that has protected our spirit from day one - this assignment had to occur after some of the Angels misused their free will to turn against God and slander his name and try to destroy the things Love has created and stands for, thus becoming unHoly Angels or demons. Our spirit is from God and cannot die, but without the guardianship of our Angel, each time we would try to be born on earth as a human, we would not accomplish it, so Divine Love put this guardianship in place for us. Now we sit down with our guardian Angel to discuss future choices. Whether we have polished the facets of love fully or not, we can choose to take a break from earth for a while. God knows it is not easy for us, and he knows the struggles that remain until his kingdom comes upon the earth. During this break we can visit other places. Sometimes these places are even shown to us while we are still in a body on earth; in near-death experiences or through dreams or an out-of-body experience, just as a reminder of joy and favorite locations and encouragement to continue on. Some are physical locations – I was shown a garden planet where everyone is focused on that. Some are less tangible – I was shown a colored sphere that a spirit can immerse in to fully experience an emotion, such as JOY. These emotion spheres are able to be immersed in if the basic facet has been fully polished first. These spheres go beyond the basics.

If we have polished the fullness of the basics of love, we can choose to not return to earth at this time, although we may during God’s kingdom on earth, to share and teach what we have learned of God’s love, and to hear and learn what others have experienced as well. There are also many who have chosen to return to earth at this time because it is a crucial moment in history, and all the evidence is now to be revealed in the cosmic court case of Love’s rule versus fear. It is a time of great upheavals and the dark will get darker, but the light will get lighter, and Love wins. During this important time many will return and remember who they are and help others remember it too, and God will be able to use them as his instruments of signs and wonders. This means great miracles, healings, bilocations, resurrections, calming severe storms, and many other Divine and love-inspiring things.

During the debriefing time we do not visit earth. But after the debriefing we can come and go and visit our loved ones on earth freely, how long and how often depends on other choices we make about what we are doing, as referenced above. What we have decided to do is now presented to Christ for final approval. It is possible that our plans will be changed. For example, if we are planning to come right back in again we may need a longer rest and recreation time than we allowed ourselves. Or, there may be other opportunities presented that we are offered to pursue, or suggestions on how to make our plan better. If we do decide to come back in, so will our guardian Angel. But while we stay off-world, the guardian Angel is not needed to be right beside us, since there was a war in heaven that cast all the demons down to the vicinity of the earth, and the other areas are free from harm.

There is no need to fear death. We have each already experienced death many, many times before. God has not left us to a never-ending cycle of life and death, but has given us grace, purpose and fulfilling work to do no matter if we are in the body or out of it.

Love or Fear? Life’s Two Choices How to Tell Which One You Live Your Life By

Is your life happy, are you living it to the fullest? Do you have emotional peace and calm? Do you wake up each morning anticipating the joy of the adventure of the day ahead? Do you feel secure about your future and the future of your loved ones? Can you actually feel a Divine hand upon your life and the warmth of personal guidance? Do you have a sense of purpose? Are you attaining your biggest dreams? If you do not have these things, what is holding you back? You know that you are unique, and have the potential to do much more than you are presently. But, what has been holding you back? This is nothing you can blame on your job, your family, your mate, your level of education or social standing. This is placed square on your own shoulders and influences every day of your life, which has a ripple effect on every day after it. Let’s look closer at life’s two choices and honestly see which one you are living your life by, and why.

There are only two choices in life. Love or the opposite of love; and the opposite of love is not hate, but fear. Love always moves us forward, fear stagnates and freezes us. This is a simple yardstick to help us recognize any place of stagnation in our lives and to make new choices. When we see what has been the true motivating factor behind our decisions, it gives us the power to change things and make it better. And something else takes place. When we consistently choose love over fear, an incredible transformation occurs around us, because light and darkness can’t be in the same place together. They simply cannot exist jointly as one; they are of two different natures. So when we make choices governed by love, a great shifting occurs in our lives, for the better. And conversely, where we see any stagnation in our lives, we will find that was a place where our initial choices were made out of fear, and that no forward movement occurs there, or is very slow and tedious.

What is a choice for love? Let’s say you are looking for a job. There is a job listing for your dream job – you would be doing something that you’ve always wanted to, and even getting paid for it. But the pay is weak, and you are afraid it wouldn’t be enough, and there is no guarantee to know if and when the pay would go up. So you continue to look and find a job listing that will give you above the pay you want, but the hours and location are all wrong, and the job itself is just a job, nothing to be really excited about. Now which one are you going to circle? If your main motivation is fear, you are going to stagnate in a job you don’t like, that no amount of money can make up for. Whereas if you choose the job you love, your joy will be shining through not only in your home life but in your job too. And in an employer’s eyes, who would be more likely to get a raise, the person who tolerates their job or the one who is actually happy to be there? Also, on the spiritual side, God looks to bless those who bravely step out in faith, and all kinds of wonderful and not-so-coincidental opportunities come from that.

With every choice that we make for love, we move ahead on our journey and become brighter. And if darkness tries to move toward light, it either has to transform into light to be near us, or move away even to exist. Nothing harmful is able to stay near us. Nothing. Think of it this way, when we bring a lit candle into a darkened room, look what happens to the room - the entire area transforms, and the area closest to the flame is the brightest. Now, do we have to be afraid that the darkness will overwhelm and put out the candle? No, it doesn’t matter how dark the room is, the darkness can never put out the candle. But, the candle can put itself out. In human terms, this happens when we buy into the ideas of unworthiness, separation and doubt, the ugliness that the darkness tries to convince us that we are part of. But we are not of the darkness, we were created of light, and when we remember this our flame will never go out. It does not matter what darkness tries to imply or manipulate us into thinking. We were created of light and love. And when we remember our true nature it doesn’t matter if we are accepted or rejected by others, because we remember who we are in the eyes of God, at a spirit level. That is where that desire for acceptance and oneness comes from, because we have felt it before we were born, and we want to experience it again, even while we are doing silly human things. Knowing yourself, remembering who you are, is about remembering you are Divinely created, accepted and unconditionally loved every moment of every day.

When we always choose love, it creates a great and vibrant shift around us in our jobs, relationships, even in our personal health. As we have seen, everything has to be positive and loving to be near us or it has to transform or move away. And since our physical health cannot move away from us, every time we make a choice motivated by love we make a choice for good health. Perhaps you have heard of spiritually adept people throughout the world who have exceptionally vibrant and healthy lives well into old age – now you know one reason why.

So how have you been making your life choices? What kind of child were you in elementary school? What about high school? Do you hate some of the memories that come up? Do you blame other people for things that happened to you? Your parents, teachers, friends or bullies? And are you still blaming people now? No matter what choices other people make and what part of their ripple effect we have been in, we can choose to love, forgive, survive, grow and thrive. And we can choose the ripple effect of our own choices to be better than those we have formerly been a part of. When we do this, an active transformation takes place, which is another part of the multi-facets of love. Blame, hate, unforgiveness – all of the negative emotions – are all part of fear. “There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.” (1 John 4:18)

When we always choose love, we actively choose our God-given birthright to how our lives are supposed to be, and we feel this deeply in our soul. It is our true and full potential to embrace loving and long-term relationships, financial abundance, and effervescent physical and mental health. With the expanded clarity that comes from advancing in love, we can also more easily identify further opportunities of light around us. This helps us make better decisions by recognizing the Divine interventions of love placed before us, choosing these, and then fully following through with them.

Now in regard to everything else, we must realize that the shifting around us that happens when we always choose love can be initially difficult to witness. Yet, it is for our soul’s greater and highest good, and all those connected with us. When we discern this, it helps us trust and accept the changes taking place. Love is always the better way. That is why trust, bravery and faith is essential to advance forward in love, for fear limits our ability to allow or follow through with changes. Making new choices of love may mean leaving behind our old job, old friends or relationships. Often we yearn for how things should be, and not what they actually were. Many times people stay in situations that are not good for them simply because it is familiar, not because it is good for them. Trusting in love helps us actively step outside of our comfort zone onto new, higher ground. That new ground is where the new world awaits, with new opportunities; and like any explorer traveling to new lands, faith is needed to leave the old things behind. “Faith is being sure of what we hope for, and certain of what we do not see.” (Hebrews 11:1)

In that new world that we find ourselves in, we also find that we are a new person as well, a joyous and more connected and loving one. And we will never find ourselves alone. Our relationships, jobs and everything else around us will be brighter and healthier for us too, for we actively discern the healthier opportunities placed before us – and better yet, even follow through on taking them. And as we continue to expand in light, we become more aware of living a joyous life fully guided by love, and the larger positive ripple effect our interactions have with others. We become aware of our spiritual need. We become aware of prayer. And we become aware that much of what we might have been traditionally taught doesn’t ring true with the essence of our spirit anymore. What then? When you know Love, you know the heart of God. So, like so many saints, philosophers and poets before you, you may be mocked or even persecuted for having your own ideas about love, but if you fearlessly keep yourself on the path of love, nothing thrown at you will matter at all. Plus, your inner peace and confidence will grow, because “God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in him.” (1 John 4:16)

Pornography and Masturbation: How can it hurt?

Does pornography really hurt anyone? If a person just views it in the privacy of their own home, how can it harm? Does it add to a relationship like some have said? What about masturbation? Especially if a person is single, isn’t it better to satisfy needs this way than going out on the town? Really, what’s the big deal?

The body is a blessing, not a curse – and it is made to receive information about our world and one another through its feelings, thoughts and senses. In fact, much of what we do in these bodies helps us recognize our gifts and purposes in life, and helps us connect with one another, with love and with God. And it is the body that contains the spirit, like electricity wired into a house. We are created by God in love, by love and for love. We all face the issues that come with having a body, namely the yearning and the longing we have to express intimacy and feel release. It is one of the three major balances in life – physical, emotional and spiritual health - which helps us stay connected to being human while actively accomplishing our purpose and pursuing spiritual things. All throughout history we see how if one of these balances is missing, major problems arise in a person’s life, often with disastrous consequences. Lack of maintaining balance habitually results in lack of discernment, a spinning out of control, and unhappiness.

We were blessed with the ability to recognize beauty in all its forms, and some say observing pornography is just as innocent as that. We recognize the glory of creation in nature; a majestic sunset, a purifying rain, a gentle breeze, a magnificent rainbow. But we are also built to recognize it in humans, and this is why people throughout history people have respected a beautiful body - seeing the ideal of how we were created to be, healthy and fit. Although modified versions of what is considered most beautiful may change slightly over the years, we have thousands of examples available to us in art, sports and in daily life. It is not the recognition of beautiful bodies that is a problem; it is something else much deeper that causes harm in pornography and masturbation.

There is a bigger picture behind what happens during orgasm than many people know. And this is the secret of why we crave it and want more of it. The moment of orgasm is not just a physical release of the body – it is an instant of intermingling and release of your spirit and the person’s spirit you are with (whether both achieve orgasm or not), and it connects you to the Spirit of God too. For a moment our spirit is at one, at peace, is fully accepted, complete, and unconditionally loved. Orgasm is a place where our spirit literally visits God. Why wouldn’t we want more of it? It is built into our DNA code for more than physically making babies – it literally is a place of receiving and giving love. It is touching the Divine place within us and within one another, and Divine Love himself.

And that is where one of the problems occur. We were not created to keep ourselves isolated from one another. Experiencing orgasm alone creates a two way connection between the person’s spirit and the Spirit of God, but misses out on the completeness it was made for in sharing with another human soul. So the more a person masturbates, the more it escalates a feeling of being separate, alone and empty, whether they are in a relationship or not. This can ripple out to more problems, and a turning inward and shutting down instead of facing challenges of attaining and maintaining healthy relationships and communication. When we feel cut off from others, feelings of unworthiness and depression readily surface and can affect all other places of our lives – our work performance, our parenting skills, etc.

Another reason why problems occur with pornography and masturbation is because it can generate feelings that damage the shield of free will. When we get holes in the shield we get attacked through them by demons, which desire to manipulate and destroy physical health, relationships and finances. When free will is breached, it is like having a nagging voice constantly whispering negative things in our mind. For example: we will never have long-term loving relationships, never accomplish the dreams and goals in our heart, never have full physical health or abundance, that we will always have to watch for the next shoe to drop, etc. This creates a war in our hearts, because we know in our spirit that these things are not really how we want to feel or live our lives - we were created to have happy, healthy lives full of abundance in all good things. Keep in mind that this negative voice is not you; it is a trick, a lie. And you can shut it down, heal any injured or manipulated areas, and have peace and joy again by doing special Deliverance prayers; these help heal the holes and get off anything on you that is not of light and love.

The issue of humanity, sexuality and creation has been of interest since the beginning of time. One of the big differences between mankind and Angels is the ability to procreate. In fact, when a couple enters into making love, a bright bubble encapsulates them that makes a sacred space where none of the Angels or any other spirit beings can see. It truly is a time of connection between humans and God. This special attention (including the gift of procreation) is one of the egotistical issues that some of the Angels had with God and humanity, and Angels left their position in heaven about this, thus making themselves unHoly Angels or demons (read more on the website in All About Angels – The Good and Bad of It All)

It is also the reason for the constant barrage of over-emphasis on the body and lust in the media, magazines, television shows, movies, and emails to the point where what was once objectionable has now become commonplace and frequently overlooked. It is a brainwashing that we will only be loved if we are thin, rich and young forever. It is precisely this entrenchment in our everyday life that makes pornography even more dangerous because people fail to see the danger and leave themselves vulnerable to attack. We are asked to be on guard to pay attention and be aware that we not fall prey to manipulation. “Be on your guard; stand firm in the faith; be men of courage; be strong.” (1Corinthians 16:13) We must be sharp in recognizing what is helpful and what is harmful. We are asked to have discernment and recognize the things that are of love and God, and what are not. It has nothing to do with what is popular or accepted by others or not. Poison is always harmful, no matter what form it may take.

Pornography is a manipulation of our natural desires, a perversion. This is far from what God had intended. When a person willingly views pornography they have opened the door for manipulation of natural desires; it now becomes like a distorted version of an exquisite painting. Where once there was beauty, now all we see is brushes, canvas and paint – all we see is the fundamentals and basics, and we lose all perception of true art and vision that the painting’s creator wanted you to see. It is the same thing by taking the gift of making love and the beauty of the human body and debasing it to the point of centering only on torsos and genitalia. It is a form of idolatry for it places more emphasis on the creation rather than the creator. It is a dangerous pitfall that begins with the violation of the gift from God and can end with the degradation of a person to such a point that a person viewing pornography no longer sees the person in the images as a person but rather they become an object. Whenever anyone is marginalized and separated, destruction soon follows. Pornography harms everyone it touches - those who make it, distribute it, show it and view it. Even children, the innocents, are used for profit.

Pornography also causes problems within relationships. It sets up perceptions of how a person should look or act to enjoy sex, and can create feelings of inadequacy or of “missing out” if they are not looking or feeling the same way. Many have separated over issues dealing with pornography much to the delight of the unHoly Angels. Worse yet, many have sought to carry out disturbing actions they have seen by seeking out others with the objective of trying out degrading and detestable acts of perversion. This destroys what was created to be a sacred place for a couple.

The tendency for pornography and masturbation to become addictions becomes a further pitfall. Like any addiction more and more is needed to meet the level of desired satisfaction. What someone may think is only slightly wrong, something to be hidden from family or friends, grows into a larger problem as it implants more and more depraved images into the mind. People become used to the objectification of themselves and others and no longer see it as an evil but rather seek out additional and increasingly corrupt images and false interactions. The emptiness and injury that occurs to individuals, to couples and to relationships is profound and affect us at our very core. It is the shield of our free will that has been damaged and we have the ability to ask God for assistance in healing it. God can step in and break this cycle of addiction and perversion through a specialty prayer called a Deliverance prayer (Deliverance prayer included in the article Are You Being Attacked? Deliverance and Exorcism at TiffanySnow.com) We can also monitor our thoughts and move away from situations that stimulate unwanted thoughts. We can choose to see sex as part of the whole of relationships and not the only reason to come together. We can remind ourselves we are barraged by social and media influences that is targeted to manipulate how we view our bodies and those of others. We can choose to think for ourselves again, and make love how we and our mate choose to in the natural flow of being together.

God does not desire us to have so many struggles with sexuality or with our bodies. The body is a blessing, not a curse – and the instant of orgasm is meant to be a place of union between a man, a woman, and God. It is a gift meant to be unwrapped and fully appreciated, it is not dirty or perverse, but just the opposite. Yet how each of us chooses to handle this gift is up to us. Will we treat it with respect and the treasure it is intended to be, gifting it tenderly to the one we love? Or will we dash it across the floor and wonder why we feel all alone? The choice is up to you, it really is a big deal.